Gettin’ Back in the Saddle: Dealing with Rejection

by Brian Carhide

Rejected – we have all been there or will be at some point in our lives. Whether it’s being rejected after asking someone on a date or a blow to your self-esteem when you receive the call – “Thank you for interviewing, but at this time we are pursuing another candidate.” So what should you do, and how should you handle the situation? Move on, get over it and figure out how to do it better!

I’m sure there is more prudent and diplomatic advice for dealing with rejection (Google it), but let’s be real. It’s frustrating, and no one likes to fail. However, it’s a fact of life; you are not going to be a good fit for every company with which you interview. So my advice, however you need to deal with it, is to get beyond the frustration and feelings of worthlessness. If it involves screaming, yelling, and the use of profanities, do it (please, out-of-earshot of anyone, especially children). My personal favorite, go home and hit the punching bag. Not only does it relieve the frustration and stress, but it’s a great workout. If you are the type that needs to emotionally vent by bawling your eyes out, by all means, have at it.

Now that the first few steps are complete, heed the old cliché, “pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle.”  Especially for your next interview or employer interaction, you must let go of all your previous emotions and focus on the future.  In my opinion, if you are emotionally carrying any animosity, anger, or frustrations from the previous rejection, it may be expressed in your attitude, from how you answer questions to your body language. It may even be subconsciously expressed, and an experienced interviewer could possibly pick-up on it. It’s a known fact; recruiters constantly enforce that having a positive attitude is vitally important to interview success.

Another side effect of rejection and the lack of response from potential employers is low morale. Many times you may lose your motivation, and the longer you are out of the workplace, the more challenging it can be to find a job. As a career advisor, this is what I hear many times: “I have submitted 100 resumes to 100 different companies and haven’t received any responses” (in a very frustrated and disgusted tone). When I hear this frustration, I have to wonder why a new strategy or approach has not been used.  If a football team were to run the same play 100 times, how much success are they going to have? Not much, so change your game plan!

Changing your plan of attack for the job search, interviewing technique, etc. will not only increase your chances of success, but it will break up the monotony of doing the same thing over and over again, with no results, while job hunting. If you are wondering how to change the game plan, visit the Embry-Riddle Career Services website for a wealth of information and conduct a self-evaluation of what you are actually doing for your search and what specific results are achieved through each action. When something does not get results, find a way to tweak the approach or try something completely new.  Stay positive, stay motivated, and stay focused on success.  You are the only person that can implement your game plan for job search success.

Brian Carhide has more than 20 years of professional aviation experience. He spent many years as a professional pilot, including experience as a charter and airline pilot. Recently, he has been a leader in guiding young aviators in higher education at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University.   

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